Ep. 74 I Quit Drinking- So Why Don't I Feel Amazing?

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How to Feel “Lit AF” on Your Alcohol-Free Journey: Finding Joy Beyond the Pink Cloud

The Myth of Instant Transformation

For many embarking on an alcohol-free journey, stories of newfound vibrancy, energy, and happiness abound. Social media is filled with shining testimonials: glowing skin, morning energy, deeper connections. But what if you don’t feel “lit alcohol-free” after you quit drinking—at least, not right away? Susan and Ruby discuss, the road to fulfillment beyond alcohol is nuanced, cyclical, and full of learning opportunities.

Why You Might Not Feel “Lit” Right Away

Quitting drinking isn’t a magic bullet, and real life doesn’t morph into a constant “rainbows and unicorns” existence overnight. In the initial months (or even the first year), physical and emotional healing is still taking place. As Susan notes, she hit a low point about a hundred days after quitting, grappling with difficult emotions and life issues that alcohol once numbed.

When you remove alcohol, you’re also removing a coping mechanism. Old emotions surface, relationships may need repair, and you’re suddenly facing life head-on. Plus, your brain and body take time to restore balance; neurotransmitters, affected by years of drinking, don’t heal instantly. The “pink cloud”—that early, euphoric period—often fades, leaving a period of emotional flatness (anhedonia) for many.

Embracing the Journey, Not the Destination

The idea that there is a particular point when you’re “there” is misleading. As Ruby emphasizes, the alcohol-free journey is ongoing. There is no fixed finish line of happiness—it’s about continued growth, healing, and discovery.

Life remains “lifey”; challenges, disappointments, and everyday messiness are still part of the deal. No one wakes up every single day bursting with enthusiasm, but without alcohol, you gain tools to handle ups and downs with greater clarity and self-compassion.

The Power of Small Glimmers

One of the most transformative practices discussed is finding and savoring glimmers—those fleeting moments of contentment, joy, or gratitude. Rather than waiting for a permanent state of bliss, the focus shifts to noticing small pleasures: a sunrise, a cozy blanket, the warmth of a mug, a chat with a friend, or a song that lifts your mood.

Keep a running list of what brings you alive—anything from movement, such as walking or yoga, to creative pursuits or nature. Revisit childhood joys if you feel disconnected from sources of happiness. Even tiny “micro-commitments” (a short walk, five minutes of music, texting a friend) can rekindle a sense of connection to yourself.

Resourcing Yourself Without Alcohol

After quitting drinking, it’s natural to crave ways to process stress or escape. The key is to find new, healthy sources of comfort. That could be petting a dog, reading a favorite book by the fire, taking a nap, or enjoying a good meal. Ruby shares her trick of starting the day with music that inspires gratitude and positivity—a simple but effective way to set the tone.

Allow yourself downtime and don’t shame yourself for needing breaks—even if that means binging a show or lounging on the couch. What matters is removing the guilt and learning to soothe yourself in nurturing, non-destructive ways.

The Seasons of Change: Honoring All Phases

Susan beautifully likens recovery to seasons: sometimes you’re in a winter of letting go, sometimes in a spring of new growth, and sometimes celebrating harvest. You may be thriving in one area of life and struggling in another. Recognize that tough emotions are temporary and part of the cyclical process of change.

Community and Connection Matter

It’s easy to feel isolated in your struggles, but connection—whether through support groups, coaching, or friends—can be transformative. Hearing others’ journeys reminds you: you are not alone, and everyone’s “lit” moments look different.

Celebrate Progress, Be Gentle with Yourself

Above all, release any shame for not feeling as good as expected. Progress isn’t linear, and no one regrets choosing this path. Focus on self-compassion, honor where you are, and celebrate the small wins. With patience, curiosity, and the support of others, you’ll discover lasting, authentic joy that outshines the fleeting highs of alcohol.
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